This isn't self love

  • 13
  • June

    2025

There's a female influencer who just went viral weeks ago because of her failed relationship situation. 
She known to make Youtube content related to self-development, so I got interested to watch all of her videos.
She was good in the beginning, but the more I watched her videos….

NO WAY. NUH UH. NOT RECOMMENDED. NO.

I feel like I’m wasting my time because I never connected with her and her content.
Most of her advice never sat right with me. I feel bad for what happened to her, but her advice is just not it.

She's all about 'women empowerment', but if you really listen with an open mind, she is misandrist in her own way.
She mostly focuses on how men don't matter or are worse than women.
She constantly bashes men and acts superior.
She promotes this whole 'high value women' talk about being girlbosses, that I'm this and that, super independent, etc, but luxury and hating men are the primary things that she actually focuses on, not self-love.

There's a fine line between self-love and straight-up overconfidence, narcissism, toxic pride and ego.
Self-love is not about perfection and prideful thinking. It's about acknowledgement, acceptance, and willingness to improve as a person. 
A self-loved would acknowledge the imperfection, stay down to earth, know everything they have is given by God and can be taken by God if not treated humbly and well.
She in the video, out of nowhere, egoistically said "I'm the prize"
I was like, HUH??? I would say, "no sweety, I'm a human, let's be humans"
There’s also a video in which she says that anybody who had problem with her was wrong and pitiful because she could never ever be wrong because she was a walking goddess.
Yeah she sounds like narcissist final boss.
I almost lost my mind when she called herself ‘seductive’

She sometimes giving good advice, motivating, but it comes from a book she reads (she mentioned the book couple times)
Most of her own advice? Toxic positivity. 
Especially about relationship advice, they sound kinda toxic and transactional.
Most of her advice is very ego driven, wanting to be seen as powerful.
Her message was always titled as self-love but in the lens of being better than the women who don’t do what she does.
One time she literally said others were beneath her. These things could really make toxic mindset and mentality.
She taught self-respect, she should’ve known that self-respect doesn’t mean a lack of respect for others. 

After I googled how old she is, OMG no wonder less wisdom coming from her actual intelligence, she is much younger than me.
I'd prefer to take advice from women in their 40s or older, with real life experience and who really had time to heal.
It's also best to read self-development books by professional certified psychologist/therapist rather than watch an aesthetic woman who gives mean girl energy yapping about being toxic girlboss wrapped in the name of self-love.

Imagine if a lonely hateful woman in her 30s consume this kind of content, she is getting nowhere but stuck up, feed her ego more, be overconfident misandrist woman who will attract the worst type of man one day. Isn’t that sad?


This influencer also said she doesn’t need a man, doesn’t want to date anyone, and doesn’t ever want to get married, yet the fact is she lied to herself.

Is she lied to her viewers too? Maybe yes, or maybe yes.



Glad I took a step back to evaluate everything.

I hope she heals 🙏🏻

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